A while back I came across an article that said women apologise too much and that we should stop. I didn’t think much of it.
Since that article I have come across maybe three more stories, opinion pieces, whatever, that have more or less outlined certain words, phrases and behaviours that I, as a woman, should avoid or use more often. Then I started to get annoyed. As my annoyance reached its peak, I was reminded of the Big Day Out in 2008 whenRage Against the Machine headlined and thousands of people in a massive sweaty mosh, jumped in unison screaming, “Fuck you I won’t do what you tell me!”
That particular moment in time is my response to any article, opinion piece or story I read that instructs me on things I should/shouldn’t say due purely to the fact that I have a vagina.
As the rage within me intensified I thought I would dig a little deeper. I did a Google search on words men shouldn’t use. It was almost like Google cocked an eyebrow and jokingly offered up this doozy of an article. Ten Things you Should Never Say to Men. WOW!! Just wow.
There are no words men shouldn’t say. They can say whatever they want, whenever they want in whatever tone they please. There are no articles (or very few) because a lot of men don’t care.
And why should they care? What these articles do (although the writers may have the very best of intentions for their fellow sisterhood) is generalise an entire gender and set certain rules of dos and don’ts based on that sweeping generalisation. In accordance to said rules, a woman’s individuality and personality is diminished. Why should a feisty, boisterous woman communicate in the same manner as a shy, timid woman? Or vice versa? It doesn’t make sense.
Representing half the population, or thereabouts, it comes as no surprise that all women are different. We come in different shapes, sizes and colours. We talk at different volumes in different ways to a bunch of different people. We each have our own unique personality that makes us special and different from one another. So why should we all have the same playbook of rules?
My latest girl crush at the moment is Senator Penny Wong. Or Slayer Wong as I call her. Born in Malaysia to a Malay dad, Slayer is an openly gay female in Australian Parliament. Leader of the Opposition in the Senate no less. Penny Wong is outrageously intelligent, composed and articulate. I very much doubt she takes any consideration of words she should or shouldn’t use.
She is slayer Wong and she is more concerned for championing the rights of minority groups and important battles such as climate change. She is working every day to better the current state of politics using her own personal brand built on strength of character and a passion for what she does. She is a force to be reckoned with and a champion for female empowerment. Watch here as she destroys Senator David Bushby. Slay!