I’ve never been one for coaching. I’m not a joiner and I don’t really take kindly to being told what to do (I know, shocking!). And I’ve always thought of life coaching as being somewhat similar to Amway or Scientology – you kind of have to get a bit crazy and join some sort of sect that then owns your children and requires you to sell cleaning products to your cousins. But, long story short: I have a life coach now. (I also have a running coach. Apparently I can’t blow my nose any more without someone telling me how hard to blow, and then applauding the contents of the tissue.) I ‘met’ Katherine Mackenzie-Smith from The Beauty of Life online and she just seemed so damn sensible and inspiring and just like she really has this life figured out. When Katherine suggested we work together, she found me at a point in my life where I had just finished breastfeeding baby number 3 and I just felt ready after 10 years of babies and breastfeeding and pregnancy and all that stuff, I was ready to start thinking about what I want out of this life – you know, for ME. So I took it as a sign and keenly agreed to give life coaching a try.
Up to this point, life coaching always seemed like something other people did and it sounded quite fabulous and indulgent – sort of like a weekly pedicure, or having your hair blow dried at a salon when you haven’t broken both your arms in a threshing machine accident. Here’s what I expected I have to admit I had no idea what to expect and went into our first session completely unprepared. I was open to chatting about my life and I thought we might set some goals and talk about what matters to me. But I really didn’t expect were:
- Katherine asked me some really hard questions and she didn’t let me get out of answering them, and
- The results I achieved in six short weeks were freaking mental.
Here’s what happened First I filled out a questionnaire which covered what my big crazy dreams are, as well as some more short-term realistic goals. Then Katherine and I talked on the phone for an hour every fortnight. Katherine was also available by email all through the six weeks – plus she emailed me homework and questions to consider along the way. I know I was the one doing all the work – and Katherine reminded me of this on a regular basis. But the act of having someone there who actually gives a shit whether you tick off those things on your to-do list is incredibly powerful (and there were a few times there where I actually only did something because I thought I can’t go back to Katherine and tell her I haven’t done it – I don’t want to get in trouble!). And Katherine helped me realise those big crazy dreams aren’t so big and crazy after all when I break them down into bite-sized chunks. For the first time in years, I allowed myself to give a lot of thought to what I want and why I want it, what is actually stopping me from achieving what I want, and whether the assumptions I was making were reasonable enough to let them stop me. (They’re not. Duh.) And working with Katherine has allowed me to not only imagine how it would feel to achieve those big crazy dreams, but to plan for them and break them down into tasks that I can do. This is not The Secret or any kind of oogedy-boogedy manifesting shit, this is real life and real steps to help you achieve the stuff that you want to achieve. My god, I am in fucking love with this process! Achieving shit is awesome! So have I achieved everything yet? No, but I have ticked off a few things that have made me very happy. And my entire mindset has opened up and my confidence in my own abilities has grown exponentially. The kicker here for me is that all of the things I want to achieve at this point of my life are career-related. I’m not going to go into them yet because I’m a bit superstitious, but watch this space and you will see me doing some cool stuff over the next while. So now I’m signing up with Katherine for more coaching and I am confident the investment I make will come back to me and then some as I achieve things in my career I would otherwise still be writing lists and daydreaming about. Oh, and her fees are tax-deductible anyway. Win! Would you consider life coaching? What big dreams would you like help to achieve?