Lost your spark? Here’s how to find it again

We’ve been talking a lot recently about rediscovering your spark. There are a thousand reasons women can lose that spark that makes them jump out of bed in the morning and seize the shit out of their day – and it can happen at any stage of life.

For us, divorce was certainly one of those things – and for lots of women we talk to in Champagne Divorce Club too. But it can also happen after having kids, losing a job, or just – you know – the day-to-day grind.

Do you ever feel like that? Flat? Blah? Unmotivated?

It can be hard to get yourself out of that negativity spiral but it’s certainly not impossible. As our brilliant Divorce Club expert Anne McKeown said to us recently: “You need to give yourself space and you need to give yourself grace.”

What we’ve also found encouraging are the stories we’re hearing from women who have worked out how to find their spark again. Women who have swum through some shit and come out the other side, soaking wet and stinky, but ready to move forward.

As we’ve listened to their stories over the past weeks I’ve realised these women all have a few things in common – and I thought it was worth sharing in case you want to rediscover your spark too.

Are you ready?

Okay, here are the things these women who have found their spark have in common.

1. They didn’t just wish for that spark to return, they went out searching for it.
2. They prioritised themselves and their happiness. Sometimes even at the expense of others.
3. They set firm boundaries of what was an acceptable way to be treated, and what wasn’t.
4. They firmly believed they deserved joy in their lives – not as someone’s mum or wife or sister or boss or employee – but as a person.

5. Like Nemo, they kept swimming, every single day. Sometimes a big swim, sometimes a little swim. But they kept moving forward.

That’s exactly how we’ve found our spark again after divorce, and we know it works. One foot in front of the other, baby. Every single day.

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Carolyn is the editorial director of Champagne Cartel and a freelance writer. In her spare time she is a long-distance runner, peanut butter enthusiast, and single mum to three incredible humans.

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