I’ve always struggled with how to meditate properly. Do you?
It’s one of those things that annoying people like Miranda Kerr bang on about and you just want to punch them in their glamorous chipmunk face, am I right?
But recently, I cracked it. I’ve been meditating for 10 minutes every morning and I tell you, I am a changed woman. And I’m going to be an annoying fucker now and tell you how calming and amazing it is and that you should bloody do it too.
But here’s the best bit: it’s easier than I ever used to think it was. And I reckon it’s easier than you think too.
Here’s why. A couple of months ago, I watched a TED Talk (how did we learn anything before TED Talks came along??) by a dude called Andy Puddicombe. Andy runs a website you might have heard of called Headspace – touted as a ‘gym membership for the mind’.
The gist of the presentation that really struck a chord for me was that you don’t need to clear your mind to meditate. You know how you’re supposed to empty your mind and focus on your breathing and all that? Sometimes you might chant a mantra, or listen to a guided meditation, or listen to a Buddhist monk ringing a seven-century old bell from the foothills of the Himalayas. Yeah, well that’s all super, and I’m not saying you shouldn’t do that.
What I am saying is that every time I went to meditate with that in mind, I resisted like buggery. I thought of all that grout in the bathroom that needed cleaning, those piles of clothes that needed folding, and all that Lego that the kids wanted me to play with them. (Just kidding, I never do any of those things.)
But what Andy was saying was that you allow thoughts to come in and out of your head as you meditate, and you observe them, but you don’t hold onto them. Does that make sense?
This sounded much easier than clearing my mind so I tried it. The first day I did it, I started with five minutes. I observed my thoughts, and I came up with three solutions to problems I’d been wrestling with. Tick!
The next day I tried seven minutes, and a similar thing happened. I was starting to see what everyone was seeing in this caper.
Now, it’s been about a month, and I’ve been meditating for 10 minutes every morning. Sometimes I problem solve, and sometimes I do achieve that clear head that I used to aspire to. But the fact that it’s not a requirement or expectation makes it much less stressful.
The other thing is that I can now meditate anywhere. Sometimes I do it standing up in the middle of a bushwalk. Sometimes I do it in the footy stands at my local sporting field after a run. Sometimes I do it on my front steps. I don’t contort myself into a pretzel mating with a praying mantis. I don’t wear a $2000 meditation unitard. I don’t look like Sarah Wilson while I’m doing it.
But I tell you what, I feel fucking amazing. No shit.
Please try it for a week. I reckon you’ll like it too.
You can watch Andy’s TED Talk, ‘All it takes is 10 mindful minutes’ here.
Are you game to try meditating like this?
This. Is. Brilliant! It makes so much sense. Thank you so much for sharing. x
It really does! Hope it helps. xx
I am SOOOOOO going to try again as I too gave up when I couldnt clear my mind. xx
Oh do! Hope it helps. It has really changed my whole outlook. xx
” I don’t contort myself into a pretzel mating with a praying mantis ” ha ha what a crack up! Letting your thoughts come and go really does make a hell of a difference. And as you say, letting go of the expectation as to how you should feel during the meditation is also a game changer. Much ‘Zen’ to you 🙂 Xx
Back atcha, Sandra! xx
I am going to try it. And ten minutes is totally doable right!
Absolutely! I’m a changed woman, I tell you!
It sounds great. I struggle to clear my mind so this different focus would be much better for me. Also I proper LOL’d at ” punch them in their glamorous chipmunk face” – girl, YES!
Oh, we all want to, don’t we! There’s only so much meditation can achieve. 😉
I am ridiculously entertained. I will give it a go but not until I get my unitard!
Everyone needs a unitard!
Awesome tip! I’m just at the end of mindful in May and it’s been life changing and will definitely be continuing beyond May.
Like you, I struggle to totally clear the mind but still feel so much clarity after meditating. And 10 mins is so do-able! I struggle with 20, but 10 is all I need! Headspace is a cool app. I also love simply being as you can change the background sounds and volume. Xx
Simply Being is great! I used to use a few of theirs, but after a while, I got sick of the same voice saying the same things with the same inflections all the time. That’s the great thing about our brains – they can do different voices, different ideas…it’s always interesting!
Ooh. Must try. I love meditating but I can never even fully switch off. Too many thoughts, not enough time! Watch this space!
Me too, Em, this has been an absolute game changer for me. Hope you like it!
I couldn’t get by without meditation and do it all odd times of the day. Well done on mastering it x
I knew it! You always have that beautiful, calm, highly evolved look about you, Jenni! x
Sounds like a great plan to me, I needed a push like this. Thank you Carolyn xx
Oh good! Hope you love it. xx
I’m a complete convert to meditation. I still need to try and make it a regular part of my routine though! I do exactly that with my crazy monkey mind – let the thoughts come and go – observe them but don’t dwell on them. Often I pop them on an imaginary leaf and watch them flow off down an imaginary stream. I have a great imagination and love the visualsl! haha 🙂
Oh wow, leaves are advanced! Love that, might have to give it a go. x
Wow, that makes so much sense! I’m another of the ‘bugger, I can’t stop thinking about stuff’ group. I’m also going to listen to that TED talk, mostly because I’ve never listened to a TED talk ever and am starting to feel like an outcast of society…
You WHAT?? Dear god, woman, get on over there! There are so many brilliant talks – you have much wonderful stuff ahead of you. xx
I really should give mediating another go, thanks for the advice.
Hope it works for you, M! x
I am game. Like you, I struggle with the whole ‘clear your mind’ thing and a ‘mind holiday’ is not what I really want. I just want a bit of calm in a chaotic moment. I think you might have solved it, mate! I’ll give it a go and let you know if it works for me too. x
Ooh, I hope so, lovely! I’ve been astounded by how well it’s worked for me. Until now I thought I was just one of those people who just weren’t meditators. xx
I need to get back into practicing Mindfulness. I’ve been debating getting the Headspace app, so thanks for the reminder. Zoe xx
I think I might have to check it out too!
Alright alright. I hate the ‘m’ word because I always feel like an overwrought loser; but this actually sounds achievable.